Will YOU be your Valentine?

February 14th. The day where Love truly feels the air. The holiday that society made huge in what measures the importance of a relationship.

I’m going to be transparent for a moment. Me being what many would call a hopeless romantic, I dreamt of the day that I would be showered with love, appreciation and attention from a significant other. Being a person who loves Love I always wanted that feeling of feeling special to someone other than family and friends. Fast forward to a more polished version of myself I still love Love and dream of the day when I’m the apple of a great Man’s eye lol….but in this season I’m content. Actually for a few seasons on this particular date I’ve been content. Content in knowing that I am loved beyond measure by a Man who loved me before I was even thought of.

I’ve always said that I want a love that mirrors 1 Corinthians 13:4-12. I believe this is the true definition of Love. It is what has set the tone for what opportunity or who may approaches me but also what keeps me from settling to things of the naked eye because everything that glitters isn’t gold. This scripture allows me to be transparent with myself but also reminds me that I am still worthy in the eyes of God.

As a vast majority of my friends are married, in serious relationships, etc; I always pray that their relationships are covered in order but mainly in Love. In the Love that only God can provide. Do I have those “I wish” days?…of course I do lol I’m human but I also have more days of knowing that God’s timing is perfect.

I’ve learned that the season of singleness is a season of learning and molding. It’s a season of constant preparation. You’re not perfect in the season of preparation, no one is. You will still make mistakes, you will still doubt at times and question the timing. I remember being so hard on myself during the first year or two of my season of singleness. I made a few poor choices and it wasn’t until recently when I fully understood that I was still worthy to God and worthy for the man he will send me.

Learning to love myself and LEARN myself has been one of the toughest yet most rewarding things that I have yet to master but have progressed in. I’m thankful for the molding and shaping.

So every year on February 14th I throughly enjoy the pictures, captions, roses, gifts, etc that other couples receive. I even enjoy the loving of other family members outside of a significant other. It reminds me that Love conquers all hurt and fear and that I truly can’t love God if I don’t love those around me.

Will YOU be your Valentine? Will you love outside of societal norms? Because the season to more solely starts with you!

Happy Valentine’s Day ♥️

Yours truly, Ebonee 🌻

Check Ya Crew

This past Sunday my paster taught a word. The title of his message was “Who’s Your Crew?” This message really had me evaluate those who I consider to be in my “crew” to make sure that those who are in my close knit circle are adding value to my present life and even my future life.

We often here this phrase “Just because one of my friends did this or that doesn’t mean I agree or I’m just like them.”…but in fact in many cases it does. Now of course no one is perfect and people make mistakes or don’t always make the best choices, it’s life. This is more towards the friends who habitually make poor decisions or lack morals and maybe even become bad influences to us and others around them.

In that moment when you’re stating how their actions has nothing to do with you…what did you do to help change their views on their actions?…or did you hype your friend up in that moment?

Ask yourself this…who influences you negatively and ask yourself how often do you hang with that person?

1Corinthians 15:33 NLT reads: Don’t be fooled by those who say such things, for bad company corrupts good character.

Being mindful of the company you keep can help you in the long run. For instance you don’t see thieves hanging with doctors because at the end of the day their “crew” is different. One crew talks different while the other crew walks different.

If you’re stagnant in certain areas of your life re-evaluate YOURSELF first. Seek where it is that you are lacking and why. Then re-evaluate your friends or the “crew” you hang around. Maybe it’s time to do some cleaning of the house. The re-movement of the people in your life should not be a frequent thing. Every year you shouldn’t be cleaning house of people in your life because at that point it may be YOU and not them if we’re being honest; but there are periods in our life where we have to remove people to elevate and grow!

Who’s in your crew?

Yours truly, Eb🌻

Hello February! Hello Melanin!🌻

Wow we made me 31+ days into the new year. We can agree that January literally came and left. Hello to the month of February!

February is my favorite month of the year for so many reasons; one of the main reasons being that it’s my month of birth! Shout out to chapter 23 making its way upon the horizon. More importantly it’s home to Black History. Black History is everyday history but it’s something about February that just showcases it even more.

We can attest that the past few years millennials have really experienced some of the SAME injustice that our ancestors experienced during their time. We have watched our Black Men be murdered on Facebook live. Our Black Women murdered, raped, and lied on. We’ve seen Our Black Men lose their job over THEIR RIGHTS. We’ve seen longer prison sentences…but most of all we’ve seen and have encountered the endless amounts of disrespect towards the COLOR OF OUR SKIN.

So many people paved the way for African Americans to be great today. Our Black leaders and ancestors set the tone…they taught us to stand for something or fall for anything. They taught us how to make it through even when the whole world is standing against you. We learned how to make life work and still show respect and humility to those who are undeserving.

During the Black History month I’ve challenged myself to learn even more, deepen my knowledge and build up that same knowledge to pass down to my children some day.

It’s one thing to be woke and another thing to be Woke and Aware.

To my Black Kings and Queens! You are worthy, you are deserving, you matter, you are royalty, God loves you, I love you! Continue to SHINE and never dim your light to allow someone else to shine.

Yours truly, Eb🌻

Trust the Process

Have you ever went before the Lord in prayer stating the desires of your heart and the prayer isn’t answered?

Psalm 20:4– May he grant your heart’s desires and make all your plans succeed.

God already knows but He wants us to come before him boldly in prayer as we may do but how often do we pray God’s will for our lives before we pray and ask God to grant us the desires of our heart? Personally for me I remember the many times I would go before God in my daily prayer and would name and pray over all the things I wanted to see God do in my life and in the lives of others. I honestly used to be afraid to pray that God’s will would be done in my life because I was afraid that what I desired He didn’t or wouldn’t desire for me so my prayer wouldn’t get answered. Looking back now as I’ve matured in Christ that was a very foolish way to think.

When living this life we always want to be in God’s perfect will. In fact it’s pretty dangerous not to be. Lately I’ve been practicing praying for God’s will to be done in my life. Since I’ve done this I’ve had clearer understanding of why He may have told me “no” to some of my desires or simply “not right now”. Looking back He was saving me and protecting me from myself.

God gives you what you can handle but also what He can trust you with. Making sure you’re not putting other things before Him. I simply call it “Trusting the Process”. You have to trust that God’s timing is the perfect timing for all of the things that you want him to bless you with in your life, i.e job, business, school, marriage, home, family, etc..you catch my drift. We tend to rush these things but some of the things we are rushing we are not even ready for. When you truly trust God, His timing and everything in between; He will show you why He allowed time to be delayed. When it’s in His will and has purpose for the purpose He has called you to walk in He will provide in every aspect. Everything will just come naturally.

Start praying for His will to be done in your life and trust Him and the Process.

-Yours truly, Ebonee

Sunshine Blogger Award

As I’m going through my email today I had the pleasure to see that I was nominated by khyye.com for the Sunshine Blogger Award! I have only been blogging for less than 4 months now and I’m grateful to even be recognized.

My prayer is that my blog reaches more people and inspire more people. I’m thankful for this!

Rules of the Award

  1. Thank the Blogger that nominated you.
  2. Answer the 11 questions that the Blogger asked.
  3. Nominate other Bloggers for the award and ask them questions.
  4. Notify your nominees and have fun.

Questions & Answers

1. What is your motivation for blogging? What keeps you going?

My passion for my gift of writing as well as inspiring and motivating others is what motivates me to blog. God, family, and friends are truly what keeps me going!

2. If you could change anything about yourself what would it be and why?

I would say one thing I would change about myself would be fear of failure and overthinking. Sometimes these things are what can hold you back from your purpose. I know fear is what held me back from blogging, seeing how this is something I wanted to do for years.

3. If you could go back and change anything in your past what would it be and why?

Settling for the bare minimum is what I would change. Settling shows that you don’t believe in yourself as much as you claim you do.

4. What song have you had on repeat lately?

“It’s Yours” By Jekalyn Carr

5. What is something people compliment you on when they meet you?

People compliment on my smile but after conversation I always get that I’m very mature for my age.

6. What’s a goal you want to accomplish in 2019?

Growing my business and adding more to my book.

7. What’s a lesson 2018 taught you?

Comparison is a thief of Joy.

8. What was the best thing that happened to you in 2018?

I graduated with my Bachelors Degree!

9. What’s a book that you’ve read that has stimulated your mind?

“The Wait” By Megan Good and Devon Franklin.

10. What’s a piece of advice you’d give someone looking to start a blog?

If you want to do something, go for it! Don’t wait, don’t let fear control you and hold you back. Simply do it and let God handle the rest!

11. What keeps you going each day?

The gift of life! Waking up everyday is an opportunity to do more and continue to walk in purpose!

Questions to you

1. Who or what inspires you?

2. What does blogging mean to you?

3. What’s your biggest fear you have overcome?

4. What’s the biggest lesson you took away from 2018?

5. What will you do differently in 2019?

6. Where do you often find your inspiration?

7. What’s your favorite book?

8. Who’s your favorite artist?

9. If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?

10. What was your biggest accomplishment of 2018?

11. Would you consider yourself an introvert, extrovert, or both and why?





Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!! 2019 is the year of Abundant Harvest! I’m so excited for this year! I’m ready to grow, expand and receive my Harvest for this upcoming year!

I’m so blessed to live to see another New Year. God has been so faithful to me and I’m ready to go to the next level in Faith! The new year is always a time of refreshing and renewing of the mind. What are some things that you will be renewing and refreshing for this year? For me I plan to refreshen my Faith walk as well as expand on my 2018 goals and create them to be bigger 2019 goals. Renew my health and work on treating my body as a temple, that includes taking care of my health. Renewing my daily prayer life along with putting more work or as I would like to now say water my seeds that I have sown.

I want to hold myself more accountable this year for the things I want to see manifested in this year. Being more disciplined is an assignment for myself as well. We often look for accountability partners and those are fine because I have a few myself but for this year I’m working on being my own accountability partner, meaning I will work hard to hold myself accountable for my self expectations! Keeping my word to myself, being loyal to myself, and truly caring for myself.

I’m expecting great things for 2019!

My prayer for everyone is that this year God will do exceedingly and abundantly all we can ask or think of. I pray for new found joy, peace, and happiness. I pray that generational curses are being broken this year and restoration is taking place within every family, home, and person. I pray that God will continue to show favor, grace and mercy for all. Praying an overflow of blessings, and it all too shall pass!


Don’t sleep on yourself this year!

Yours truly, Ebonee

2018 Review

Wow! We made it to day 365! Of course many people have their own testimonial of their year and the things they have accomplished and lessons they have learned, so I thought to share mine.

One thing I learned this year is when the Devil knows or sees that God has promotion and divine plans for your life he will truly set out to destroy it all. Let’s rewind back a little to 2017. I made a few bad choices out of my character and I was really trying to find myself in a mess of things. I grew a lot that year and was setting myself up for better for 2018. One of my biggest goals for 2018 was to fully serve God. God had been tugging on me and I been ready to answer. Anyways fast forward to Jan 2018 I made the same mistake I said I was leaving in 2017. It crushed me, I was depressed for like the 1st 3 months of the year, I connected myself to someone I had no business being connected with and that brought on new demons I had never battled before. Even when I let the person go it was like the demons stayed. I began acting on my flesh & partaking in things I never partook in before. (The ATTEMPT of the Devil’s destruction)

One thing I can say is when you seek God in your mess he will always protect you & take care of you. That’s what I did I sought God. Even in my mess. There were times where I was embarrassed to even seek God’s face but I still sought him. God also placed intentional people in my life to help me and to counsel me. People I could truly be completely vulnerable with. Even with this new found issue I was dealing with, God still blessed me throughout this year. He still allowed me to be successful in areas where I truly applied myself.

In 2016 I said that I wanted to travel every year of my 20s. I’ve been doing so since 2016. I confessed this year I would make the Dean’s list. I accomplished that. I joined a Business Fraternity, I started making steps to starting my own business, I stepped out and started my blog, I made more connections this year than I did last year. I graduated with my Bachelors this year. All things I took before God in prayer.

God showed his faithfulness to me this year. I learned that God doesn’t bless mess but he can bless you in your mess where he sees fit to. I learned that God doesn’t condemn and his mercy is truly new every day we see when we repent and work hard to not make the same mistakes habitually.

I’ve been working on this all 2018 and have seen growth in myself spirally. In 2019 I plan to continue to walk, talk, move, look, and feel different. I plan on really being for God how he was for me this year. As a human I’m sure I will fall, but intentionally falling is not entering into 2019 with me. I plan to do greater and to tap more into my purpose.

I ended 2018 in happiness and a new peace.🌻

My prayer is that you often evaluate and re-evaluate yourself. Get all you can and need out of God in 2019.

Yours truly, Eb